At 23, my life was unraveling. Pregnant and alone, I felt abortion was my only option. When I couldn't bring myself to go through with the abortion, I set out on a lifetime's journey as a Jewish birth mother. Twenty years later, I not only speak to other women about being a Jewish Birthmother and my experience with adoption, but I am also a successful business owner of Ceremonies by Lori and ShadowCatcher Photography, LLC. My crowning achievement is having an incredible relationship with my biological children, one I raised and one I placed for adoption.
I ran from telling my story because of the shame - ashamed of myself and afraid of shaming my family. I ran for many years, but now I stand strong. It's time to break the stigma!
Adoption is such a beautiful thing and there are so many people who can benefit from it when it’s done well, in an ethical, non-coercive manner and is truly the woman’s choice. This is why I am working to reverse the stigma against being a Jewish Birth Mother.
Discussions of the journey of moving through an abortion clinic to placing children for adoption and reuniting years later. Discussions of the stigma placed on Birth Mothers and getting your life back.
Today, I try to live each day as fully as possible and help others do the same. I tell the people in my life — and especially the women I am privileged to meet and speak with— that they are not alone. Try and make the best decision possible at any given moment. Be honest with yourself, and with others, and Embrace the Future!